How to answer insults and bad jokes

Stinging remarks, insults or simple jokes, here are some examples of how you can be verbally attacked by a person not just well intentioned. How to fight back? Get angry, yell to be left alone, or choose to jump to beat calm and wisdom shall specify a master martial arts?

Martha Beck, best-selling author of "Steering by Starlight" and five other successful books, has set out in O, The Oprah Magazine a very good idea to be implemented. How about if you follow a course entitled "Mastering martial arts of mind"?

First lesson: Find your center


Any form of martial art teaches you to find your position that the body balanced, stable and able to give you strength when you start to attack. The same need to do and when you're caught in a psychological conflict. Sure difference is this time to search your position trebuies mental rather than physical. Thus, you find that point of peace and reconciliation with itself, accept your mistakes and repeat in your mind your good points.

It is important to control your emotions and do not judge too hard for mistakes. Your opponent will always try to touch on your point sensitive to what hurts you more and makes you feel bad. If you have such a point that has not been hit, right?

Lesson Two: Practice the art of disappearance


You probably think that you give evidence of weakness if you choose to delete, but just not so. Often, some people are simply hopeless. It's like you try to look for excuses a perpetrator with mental problems who try to kill the street. The fact that a child had sequelae not excuse the conduct psycho-patologico-unstable. Thus, if a person hurt you every time you meet or just verbally, do everything possible to disappear from his path. Even if you try to convince that evil is derived from the traumas of childhood and may be a better man, he still will not change behavior, so it's useless to shake you.

Lesson Three: Exercise is makes perfect


Now you know what position to take in front of opponent and clearly know what dedication it bears, is to put into practice the very best techniques and paresis to verbal blows. There are three ways that you can grab one, depending on which one you choose depending on your degree of irritation to cause the person so far and the relationship of you.

1 Technique: warning horn


When you see a pedestrian has the intention to move the red, denying to the consequences, tend to horn to make it to react, is not it? Same thing you can do with your friend "well intentioned". When salt horse and see that it already feel bothered by his remarks and tell him calmly respicat: "Stop. I mean it! ". Repeat this sentence and you'll see how much power gain while those simple words of your opponents.

2 Technique: The invaluire


When you attack, you're used to answer the same. There are few people who believe in the phrase "turn the other cheek". But not for nothing was thought. The easiest way to debusola opponent is take it with you to slam invaluire answer to that and not expect it so amutesti.

Here the example that it is a film that was numti "Spanglish". A young wife, played by Tea Leoni throw them in front of his mother: "You were an alcoholic and promiscuous woman during the years in which I made myself. Well, just for that reason, I am now as is ". Mother's answer was one place. "You have a very strong point of view my dear. But what you do not know is that the lessons learned by me are now in your hand. "Retort that unexpected fury face off, partly because a statement was a correct and some that did not contain anything malicious in it.

3 Technique: Weapon of good parent


When you were little and make a cheekiness, it happens that your mother rebuked you so much gentleness and kindness that make you feel super guilty because you upset her? Feeling guilt is enjoyable for anyone. Why not also adopt the same technique you used for your mother and Father to do good and wise with your opponent? Tell him, on a gentle tone that you did not expect this behavior from him and that I was deeply disappointed. Your opponent will be completely disarmed and no longer know how to fix the mistake and to show that he is actually much better than that.

Being a master of martial arts requires such a lifestyle, one that once adopted, will make the opponent infirm and fear in one strong and always ready to fight back ... and have to choose other modes of the answer, avoiding violent response.